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Empath Self Care During Quarantine.


Chile, I don't know about you, but I literally feel like the entire country just got out of a dysfunctional relationship, and here we are in the aftermath trying to heal. I feel like we've been in a state of constant fight or flight  for the last few years, one reason being, the APOCALYPSE.

 

Okay, so it's not officially an apocalypse, but that's  what I call this whole COVID nightmare, as it literally turned everyone's world as we knew it upside down.

I know it's in our nature as Empaths to take care of everyone else first, but now more than  ever it is important for not only Empaths,  but EVERYONE,  to take care of themselves. And each other! We are literally in the throes of a tragic event, and we need to take care of ourselves-and each other.

I've always been a homebody, and I worked from home for 13 years prior to the pandemic, so once this whole thing started I thought to myself "this is cake, I've been preparing for this my whole life...." 😂😂

But you know what? It's so much different hanging out at home when you want to versus when you're essentially told you have no choice. I admit, I think I'm suffering from a little bit of PTSD, a lot of extra anxiety, maybe sprinkle on some depression, and add a little extra weight 😂.

I recently decided that no matter what, I'm going to take better care of myself during this time that we're on lockdown, even if means just doing one small thing just for me every day. Some of the ways that I've maintained a little self care are:

  1. Bubble baths. I got myself some great bubble bath and bath salts, and I make it a point to soak and relax a few times per week. I literally shut the door, and shut EVERYONE and EVERYTHING out (including my dog who's attached to me at the hip-sorry Paina, I need a break sometimes).
  2. Journaling. I can't tell you how much journaling I've done during this time. I actually started working on TWO books during the apocalypse, and I have to say, I've made a lot of progress on them. That's a great thing, because for me writing and journaling has always been a form of therapy for me. Writing things on paper helps me get things out and release, and boy have I ever here lately.
  3. Cleaning. I admit I'm a bit of an OCD type A personality, but like journaling, cleaning and organizing are cathartic to me. My closets have never looked so purty.
  4. Spending quality time with my kiddos. We're in this together. We do things like movie night where we snuggle on the couch and binge watch any mindless thing we want, playing board games (Lord help me because my son is a board game addict and boy does he keep me busy with those lol). Though it's a little weird having him in my space all day while I work and while he's doing his schooling, I've come to better understand my son and his learning and communication style during this time, and we have never talked more.
  5. Walking. I despise the cold weather, so I invested in a treadmill to get my steps up. I actually just started on it this week, but I can tell you I already feel more energetic after the few days I've done. Hopefully I can get this little pudge I've acquired during lockdown off ASAP 😂.
  6. Keeping in contact with loved ones via telephone/face time as much as possible. My family is pretty big and we're used to getting together at least once per weekend, be it to watch a football game (Penn State and Eagles fans here) and eat dinner, my nephews soccer games, or my sons basketball tournaments. Covid scratched ALL that. I miss my family, but we all know it's to keep us all safe. We still do drive by birthdays, drive by Thanksgiving dinners (that was quite entertaining), group texts and face times. I hope we can all get to hanging very soon, but in the meantime, we figure it out.

My dad used to always (and still does) say to us growing up that if something doesn't work out the way you wanted, "make the adjustment." Though that used to irk my soul back then lol, this year has definitely taught me and mine that life isn't always perfect, but if you make the adjustment you can and will get thru anything. Make the adjustment y'all, take care of yourselves and your loved ones, and see you all when the world opens back up again.

 

List below some ways that you and yours have been making the adjustment during this crazy time.


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  • anonymous

    Here are 3 things that helped me (ignore my grammar lol)

    1. Financial literacy – Read up on investing, pay off debt, and work on your credit (you know all the things most black parents don’t teach their kids or they were too busy or they just didn’t know…its true tho LOL). Financial freedom is independence! There’s no need to tolerate narc behavior when you have your OWN. Invest in yourself! If you’re still living with the controlling narc due to your financial situation get your shit together in silence and make the move when you can. Keep in mind the longer you stay in that situation there will be mental health consequences. The sooner you get out the sooner you can heal and open the door to someone who truly deserves you.

    2. Health is Wealth – Discover new recipes, swap out some of those carbs with veggie alternatives, start making different salads, start buying fresh spinach, kale, tofu(not for everyone lol), and other fresh veggies. Once you start eating healthier you’ll start thinking clearly and be more equipped to see through all the narc mind games, boost your self-esteem/self-worth, and be more inspired to work out to get even more results.

    3. Treat yourself – Take yourself on dates, buy some new comfy bedding, take yourself on road trips. Stop expecting the narc to create happiness in your life, they never will since all they care about is themselves! Until you understand that you’ll be in the never ending cycle of being let down. Happiness is found within, not with the Narc! I can’t explain the joy of hopping in the car with my favorite playlist and heading to the shore or NYC all by myself. It’s better to be alone than with a toxic person.


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