Do I feel bad for outing the narc?
Yes....see below for disclaimer:
When I first decided to start this journey, I was ambivalent. How would this make my ex feel? Would he be embarrassed? Angry? Hurt?
Then I realized....that's just me eMpathing again n’ shit. After all, did he think about me when he was telling lies to other people, destroying my reputation, friendships, finances....my life in general? No he did not. And I am STILL suffering years later.
The eMpath in me is sorry that it had to go down this way, but she's also happy to be free. And now it's time the world knows the truth. About me. About all empaths. About all survivors of narcissistic abuse. We deserve better. The world deserves to know the true us. And they gonna learn today, and every day hereafter.....that is my mission, and I choose to accept it!
DISCLAIMER ALERT: I feel as bad for outing him as he did for while he was smearing my name, ruining my friendships, tarnishing my reputation, ruining my finances, ruining my mental, emotional and physical health. Oh wait, he didn't feel bad at all (in fact he reveled in it). Energy returned.
I'm not trying to sound mean or harsh, but that "do you feel bad for..." talk is our eMpath voice worrying about another's feelings before our own, yet again. I don't feel bad for telling my story. It needed to be told, and it's time. Im not looking for vengeance, sympathy, or even to clear anything up. I've moved so far past that point. I am just telling my side of the story. I honestly don't even know if anyone is listening. But whether or not someone is listening, I've a story to tell....and I'm gonna.