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Building Resilience


I'm gonna start this post off with a quote:

"Life is not always going to be perfect. Sometimes you get handed something you weren't expecting......but you don't give up. You make the adjustment. If it doesn't go how you originally planned, just make the adjustment...."~The Ghetto Commentator

The ghetto commentator, as my friends and I call him, just happens to be my father. How'd he get that name, lol? Imagine growing up with a parent who makes every adversity faced into a comical situation. That is my father 😂.

In psychology, resilience is defined as the ability to adapt in the face of adversity or significant sources of stress, and to over come and bounce back form these situations. Basically, it's the ability to brush your shoulders off and keep on pushing thru.

Resilience is a very important aspect of life, as it helps people process and overcome hardship. Having resilience does not mean that you won't encounter problems, it simply means that when you do, you can use your resources to overcome them in a healthy manner.

There are four different types of resilience:

  1. Physical resilience: the ability to recover from physical challenges (be it thru stamina, recovering after an accident, etc.)
  2. Emotional resilience: the ability to understand that items may be tough, but we will get thru them and they will get better.
  3. Mental resilience: the ability to think flexibly, or as the ghetto commentator would say "make the adjustment."
  4. Social resilience: the ability of a social group to overcome obstacles as a team (boy are we facing this one now with COVID).

Some ways to build resilience:

  1. Foster your relationships.
  2. Avoid seeing troubling times as "the end of the world."
  3. Accept that change is inevitable and do your best to adapt to them
  4. Take good care of yourself (physically and emotionally). Be nice to YOU -and make yourself a priority.
  5. WRITE IT OUT. I journal, a LOT. I've enough content for probably 100 books (I am working on publishing one eventually). It's cathartic. Sometimes I have no real focus or specific focus and I just WRITE. Its such a great release, and I encourage it.
  6. Seek therapy. It's liberating. That's all I'm gonna say about that.

Here are a few exercises that you may find helpful. 

Understanding ResilienceDescribe the areas of your life in which you’d like to build your resilience. When in your life have you shown resilience before? You are more resilient than you might think you are. Describe one time of your life where you had to be resilient. How did your behavior change? Did you become irritable, quiet, scared?

Do you tend to assume the worst? Write down one situation in which you thought the worst-case-scenario would happen, and it turned out to all be okay.

Emotion RegulationDescribe a time in the last three months when you had difficulty regulating your emotions. Did you snap at someone? Did you make an impulsive emotional decision? Did you just feel totally out of control of your feelings? Write about your situation.

What is something positive that came out of a recent struggle you had in your life?

Taking ResponsibilityWrite down two emotions that you are feeling right now.Whether they are positive or negative, retrace your steps and simply observe what happened that brought up these emotions. Remember not to criticize yourself. Get curious.

Do you currently owe anyone an apology? What happened?  Imagine apologizing and receiving a positive response. How will you make this a reality?

Building CommunityTake a moment to write about the connections in your life. What relationships are you grateful for?

What do you need more of in your life? What type of friends would help you grow and broaden your horizons even further?

Strengthen Your Relationship with YourselfDescribe your morning routine, step-by-step, below (EX: “wake up, brush teeth, eat breakfast, read the news”). Then, add what new things you would like to do to enhance your morning and the rest of your day.

Get ExerciseHow frequently do you exercise? What do you do to exercise? Even if you simply walk up the stairs at work once a week, think about ways in which you get your body moving. What is something new you would like to try in order to expand your physical health?

Challenge Yourself: What is one goal you have that you would like to complete in the next seven days? How will you set yourself up for success to achieve this?

Like it or not, life is gonna throw you a curve ball or two. How you handle them can make all the difference in your emotional as well as physical outcome. Make the adjustment, you just may come back stronger for it.

My life has been filled with many adverse situations, from teenage motherhood to divorce, relationship losses, financial ruin, and everything in between. One thing about me though, I always bounce back, and most importantly, I always emerge better than when I started. It was never easy, but I was able to always make the adjustment and push my way thru. The ghetto commentator taught me that 😉


9 comments


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  • Eric Jones

    Cool website!

    My name’s Eric, and I just found your site – them-path.com – while surfing the net. You showed up at the top of the search results, so I checked you out. Looks like what you’re doing is pretty cool.

    But if you don’t mind me asking – after someone like me stumbles across them-path.com, what usually happens?

    Is your site generating leads for your business?

    I’m guessing some, but I also bet you’d like more… studies show that 7 out 10 who land on a site wind up leaving without a trace.

    Not good.

    Here’s a thought – what if there was an easy way for every visitor to “raise their hand” to get a phone call from you INSTANTLY… the second they hit your site and said, “call me now.”

    You can –

    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It lets you know IMMEDIATELY – so that you can talk to that lead while they’re literally looking over your site.

    CLICK HERE http://jumboleadmagnet.com to try out a Live Demo with Talk With Web Visitor now to see exactly how it works.

    Time is money when it comes to connecting with leads – the difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus 30 minutes later can be huge – like 100 times better!

    That’s why we built out our new SMS Text With Lead feature… because once you’ve captured the visitor’s phone number, you can automatically start a text message (SMS) conversation.

    Think about the possibilities – even if you don’t close a deal then and there, you can follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    Wouldn’t that be cool?

    CLICK HERE http://jumboleadmagnet.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    You could be converting up to 100X more leads today!
    Eric

    PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE http://jumboleadmagnet.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://jumboleadmagnet.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=them-path.com


  • Eric Jones

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    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It signals you the moment they let you know they’re interested – so that you can talk to that lead while they’re literally looking over your site.

    And once you’ve captured their phone number, with our new SMS Text With Lead feature, you can automatically start a text (SMS) conversation… and if they don’t take you up on your offer then, you can follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    CLICK HERE http://talkwithcustomer.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    The difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus a half-hour means you could be converting up to 100X more leads today!

    Eric
    PS: Studies show that 70% of a site’s visitors disappear and are gone forever after just a moment. Don’t keep losing them.
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    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE http://talkwithcustomer.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://talkwithcustomer.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=them-path.com


  • Eric Jones

    My name’s Eric and I just found your site them-path.com.

    It’s got a lot going for it, but here’s an idea to make it even MORE effective.

    Talk With Web Visitor – CLICK HERE https://talkwithwebvisitors.com for a live demo now.

    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It signals you the moment they let you know they’re interested – so that you can talk to that lead while they’re literally looking over your site.

    And once you’ve captured their phone number, with our new SMS Text With Lead feature, you can automatically start a text (SMS) conversation… and if they don’t take you up on your offer then, you can follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    CLICK HERE https://talkwithwebvisitors.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    The difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus a half-hour means you could be converting up to 100X more leads today!

    Eric
    PS: Studies show that 70% of a site’s visitors disappear and are gone forever after just a moment. Don’t keep losing them.
    Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE https://talkwithwebvisitors.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://talkwithwebvisitors.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=them-path.com


  • Eric Jones

    Hi, my name is Eric and I’m betting you’d like your website them-path.com to generate more leads.

    Here’s how:
    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It signals you as soon as they say they’re interested – so that you can talk to that lead while they’re still there at them-path.com.

    Talk With Web Visitor – CLICK HERE http://talkwithcustomer.com for a live demo now.

    And now that you’ve got their phone number, our new SMS Text With Lead feature enables you to start a text (SMS) conversation – answer questions, provide more info, and close a deal that way.

    If they don’t take you up on your offer then, just follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    CLICK HERE http://talkwithcustomer.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    The difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus a half-hour means you could be converting up to 100X more leads today!

    Try Talk With Web Visitor and get more leads now.

    Eric
    PS: The studies show 7 out of 10 visitors don’t hang around – you can’t afford to lose them!
    Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE http://talkwithcustomer.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://talkwithcustomer.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=them-path.com


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